rules for naming baby

one thing i hate… i should say…what really annoys me is people who don’t name their babies straight away…

i don’t mean people who don’t tell you the name beforehand, that’s private between mom and dad…i mean people who have their babies and then say they aren’t sure what they will name them!! i actually knew someone who had amnio at 16-20 weeks, whatever it is, so they KNEW it was a boy and then took a week or so after he was born to name him…WTF?

apparently things have gone a bit the other way…i know this article is about celebrities but it seems like with everyone knowing what they are having have you heard this “early” naming??

my grumpy old woman feeling is simple~~ you get pregnant, okay if you want to know what you are having and take ALL the surprise out of it, that’s your choice BUT~~~ after you have the baby…

it’s called an announcement: you let your family and friends know that you and baby are fine and provide simple details like…..

NAME, SEX, WEIGHT, DATE and TIME!!

have you ever seen all those cute cards at the shop? saying?

IT’S A GIRL! or IT’S A BOY!

i am somewhat superstitious and think early naming is actually a bit scary, in the tempting fate way…but if you must and most parents should/do have a name or a few names picked out by the time they get to the hospital..keep it a secret~~because i do like surprises!!

What’s in an (early) name?

Woman who is eight months pregnant
Is this the best time to name your baby?

By Laura Schocker

The mother of Jude Law’s fourth child announced on Sunday that the new baby will be named Sophia – three months before she is expected to arrive. It was an unusual break from baby naming protocol. But why do names tend to be such a secret in the first place?

In the past few years, the celebrity name game has often been a waiting game.

Britney Spears left her fans hanging for six weeks before she revealed the name of her son Jayden James. Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck took a week to announce that they would call their second daughter Seraphina.

Jude Law
Jude Law’s next child will be called Sophia

And Apple and Suri were both unveiled with much fanfare a day after their respective births.

But the wait for Sophia? None at all.

On Sunday, mother-to-be Samantha Burke’s lawyers released a statement to People magazine revealing that her daughter with Law would be named Sophia. The actual name may not have packed as much surprise as a moniker like Apple, but the timing did. Ms Burke, an American model, isn’t due until October.

She’s not the only October due-date with a name picked out, though. American reality TV couple Joshua and Anna Duggar – Joshua is the eldest child on the show 18 Kids and Counting – announced that they will call their first daughter Mackynzie Renee when she arrives.

And even for those outside of the spotlight, talking over possible names isn’t unusual.

“In the non-celebrity world, I’d say that it’s definitely a trend for people to discuss their name ideas at length before the baby comes along,” says Pamela Redmond Satran, author of the Brilliant Book of Baby Names and Cool Names for Babies. But often, people tend to keep the final choice a surprise until the last minute.

So why is there this tradition of secrecy? One reason is that parents-to-be don’t want to open up the naming conversation for debate, says Jennifer Moss, founder and CEO of Babynames.com.

Poster of pregnant Britney Spears
Britney Spears did not announce the name of Jayden James until after

“They don’t want reactions to the name,” she says. “It’s easier to announce it after the baby is born because it’s attached to a person and people are less likely to criticise it.”

Keeping the secret can make couples feel they are sharing something intimate, says Elaine Griffiths, editor of Prima Baby magazine.

“There is a sense that things can get too public these days,” she says, pointing out that new parents typically know the sex ahead of time and will often post scanned photos and share intimate details of the birth – or even conception – of the baby.

“Something like a name is a very personal thing,” she says. “People decide, ‘Well, ok, this is going to be our secret’.”

Sometimes the hush is also rooted in superstition, tradition or religion, Ms Satran adds. In the Jewish faith, for instance, parents are not supposed to prepare for the baby by purchasing furniture or choosing a final name until he or she has arrived.

“People don’t want to announce their good news or give it too soon,” she says. “They’re afraid they’re going to jinx things.”

Spotlight moves

And often, parents may simply want to reserve the right to change their minds.

“A lot of it does depend on what your baby actually looks like once he or she is here,” says Ms Griffiths. “Even if you do feel quite determined that you’re going to call your baby Sophia, if, for whatever reason, it doesn’t look like a Sophia, then you’re likely to change it.”

And if that spotlight moves on, those following the last three months of pregnancy may have less to look forward to, says Ms Satran.

“Announcing the name early on does make the arrival of the child a bit anti climatic,” she says, likening it to knowing the sex of the baby before it arrives. “A lot of people do still like that movie-worthy surprise.”

 

WHAT’S IN THIS NAME?
Sophia was the 39th most common baby name in the UK in 2008, according to the parenting group Bounty
The name means “wisdom”
The variation “Sophie” was fourth in popularity last year

It’s not just celebrities who are playing this early name game, either. Jeanette Cutlack, a baker who lives in the Isle of Mull in Scotland, named her son Sam three months into her pregnancy.

“I discussed it with my mum and at the time there were two options,” she says, adding that the choice was between Sam and Ralph. “My mum is a bit of a bully, so she put down my second option. So I just kind of shrugged my shoulders.”

Ms Cultack, who says little Sam kicked the first time she called him by name, wasn’t worried about changing her mind. “In my heart he was a Sam and that’s what I knew it was going to be,” she says. “I’ve never met a bad Sam.”

6 thoughts on “rules for naming baby

  1. LOL Rose…

    We told everyone about Podling and Babyhead…but we waited a while before doing so and we didn’t make a big huge deal out of it. I am superstitious too and I always waited until I was pas the danger point…meaning if the baby was born then s/he would have a good chance of making it. We also didn’t really make it set in stone either…it was always “We chose this so far…but we are still looking to see if we like something better”. We never just announced it.

    I can’t understand people that don’t have names when their babies are born…you have a long time to think about it and if you aren your spouse are arguing over it…what the hell are you going to argue about later (unless of course one of you want to name it something totally inappropriate…my sister’s went to school with a guy named Toke – damn hippies. LOL).

    What irks me is when people don’t stop to think about their kids names and the real world. I wanted something uncommon for my kids but not so uncommon they would be made fun of…some of the kids I hear are just terrible or if they don’t pay attention to initials…my ex husband’s initials were A.S.S. ROFL He was too…

    Anyway, sorry. 😛

  2. My English cousin Daisy was born on the 14th of July and her parents seriously considered giving her the middle name ‘Independence’ – but they thought about her initials, which would have been D I M. Her middle name is Grace!

    We had no luck with baby names, especially boys’ names because we both came from such large families. We were trying to find a name we both liked that no one else in the family was using. Nearly impossible! We settled on three names – one the ex liked, one I liked and one that was ok. We had no trouble, that first time, deciding on a girl’s name. However, that first baby was a boy and it took us until the hospital threatened us to finally decide – we chose the name that was ‘ok’…I can’t imagine my son with one of those other two names now!!

    With our second, we had a difficult time choosing a boys’ name once again, because neither of us liked the choices we had the first time around. We also no longer liked the girl’s name we’d chosen first time around. Even worse, we had a small dairy farm that we started just after our son was born, and I named all the cows my favourite girls’ names in hopes of finding the one I liked. That didn’t work…but when that second child was born – a girl – we’d at least narrowed it down to three names, and when I first looked in her eyes, I gave her one of those names right then and there. There’s no way she could’ve been anything else!

    A long way of saying that we made no announcements in advance to family and friends because we just didn’t have a clue…

  3. Hmm..interesting. I can’t decide which makes me shudder more…the thought of having Jude Law’s 4th baby or that shot of a nude and very pregnant Brittany Spears?

  4. Jules– too funny! We didn’t tell anyone in advance any ideas we had because my family is sssoo darn opinionated.and have no problem not having tact .. Also when you are a teacher as long as I had been you have heard just about every namee and associations come up and I just CAN’T name my kid THAT!! But I agree about WTF?? not having a name by the birth.?? I do ‘understand’ that some names may ‘fit them’ better later on but that is the risk you take.. and yes I was superstitous about not even anuncing I was preggers ‘too soon’ and stupidly listened to my mother and her fears about our child’s special needs and suffered in silence..

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